Parvati Shallow, a 42-year-old reality TV star renowned for her roles in Survivor and The Traitors, has come out as queer. In December 2023, she confirmed her relationship with comedian Mae Martin and embraced her identity publicly. In her upcoming memoir, “Nice Girls Don’t Win: How I Burned It All Down to Claim My Power,” set for release on July 8, 2025, Parvati discusses her journey of self-discovery, which she describes as transformative, especially following her divorce. She shares the impact of recognizing her queerness, stating, “The confetti has exploded… So I am fully queer.”
Her memoir delves into her childhood in a commune, personal loss, and experiences in reality television, emphasizing a healing narrative rather than glamorization. Parvati’s coming out is significant for queer representation in mainstream media, especially as she challenges stereotypes surrounding age and identity. Fans have praised her as a crucial figure in queer visibility, acknowledging her complex narrative that transcends traditional expectations of queer stories. Parvati’s journey not only highlights the importance of self-acceptance but also encourages others to explore their identities later in life, marking her as an influential voice in the LGBTQ+ community.
